Developmental Attachment v. Spiritual Detachment: raising children who are capable of letting go of the wrong things and embracing the right things

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An acquaintance and I were recently chatting when the subject of parenting came up. I explained that I am an “attachment-minded parent”. He chuckled and said, “But we’re Christians. Aren’t we supposed to be detached from created things?” He was only joking (I think . . .), but he does raise an interesting question about the difference between the term “attachment” in developmental psychology and
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Praying in Silence with Children: VIDEO

A free video from Apostleship of Prayer.  Love these 3 tips for helping children become comfortable with praying silently. Timed prayer Secret good deeds Listening

Is Your Marriage Safe?

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I made my husband an apple pie the other day. It was a simple gesture, but it carried a lot of meaning. We’d been out of the house most of the day, so I wasn’t sure I’d have time to get it done. Slicing and peeling six cups of apples, getting the crust just right, and making sure I didn’t leave it in the oven
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Become Like Little Children

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Some religious people would maintain only a mature, adult Christian can act lovingly, with a conscience. Yet Pope Francis and even Sacred Scriptures disagree with this narrow view. St. Paul explains that God will judge everyone by much how truth God has revealed to them. If a tribe hidden in a jungle has never heard the gospel, God will judge them based on what they know and St. Paul assures us
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Which Is More Important: Quantity or Quality Time with Kids? BOTH are equally important

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Last week the media happily seized on a study released in the Journal of Marriage and Family in which three sociologists presented their findings of a long-term study that examined the affect of mother’s time spent with children on the emotional and educational outcomes of the children.  They found no relation between how much time mothers (study mostly focused on mothers) spend with their kids (aged 3 to 11) and the child’s
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Boredom Is Good for You

Kim's daughter Claire when she's bored

See!  I’ve been telling my kids for years that boredom is a gift!  The next time your kids say “I’m bored, I have nothing to do”, you can reply cheerily, “FANTASTIC!” From the British Psychological Society and the journal Psychologist: “Boredom can make us more creative, an expert says.  [Dr. Sandi Mann] has researched the suppression of emotions, including boredom, at work. In one experiment she found participants who
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Nursing a Two-Year-Old: It’s Normal for Us

I could see the idea forming in her mind by the way she looked at me. She fidgeted. She fussed. She wriggled her entire 31 pounds of two-year-old chub around in my lap until she had assumed the familiar position, head in the crook of my arm and eyes looking up at me longingly. Not ready to give in quite yet, I attempted to distract
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Raising Children Who Love (or Don’t Hate) Confession

My guest essay on Dr. Greg Popcak’s blog Faith on the Couch: I’ve heard that some people love going to Confession.  I personally don’t know any of them.  Maybe it’s an urban legend.  I think avoiding the confessional is our human default, because we are uncomfortable exposing our weakness to others.  The Church wants us to know that the Sacrament of Reconciliation is a gift. 
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In April: Join THE NO-SPANK CHALLENGE

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Our friends at Stopspanking.org alerted me to this amazing spank-out challenge coming up in April: Getting the Support You Need If you’re ready to stop spanking, yelling or using other punitive techniques with your child, if you’re struggling to discipline your children peacefully, or simply want to take your parenting journey deeper, welcome! Over 25 peaceful, gentle parenting advocates and experts are collaborating to offer a FREE
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Mary Moments

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If you’re like me (and I think most moms are), you’re always doing. Doing laundry. Doing dishes. Doing dinner. It’s our vocation, and it’s beautiful. Because, by its very nature, it requires us to serve. And while serving certainly demonstrates love, there are times we need to stop the doing. There are times we need to show our love by doing something else. Like last
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TENDER TIDINGS Spring 2015 NOW AVAILABLE! FREE!

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The spring issue of TENDER TIDINGS, a FREE parenting magazine for gentle, intentional, and attachment-minded parents is now available!  Be sure to share it with your friends! Click on the Flipbook to explore: In this issue: Spring Cleaning:  Heart and Home (How is decluttering a Christian activity? What’s the connection between confession and cleaning?) Nature & children:  Why children need to encounter God’s creation outdoors; nature
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40 Days in the Desert

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Displaying a cactus in our home during Lent reminds us of the 40 days Jesus spent in the desert. Our family purchased a mini cactus at Walmart and printed a simple card with a picture of Jesus in the desert and the scripture passage “One does not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes forth from the mouth of God.” (Deut. 8:3)
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